Most of the parents realize that they should stop yelling at their kids but they usually fail to see any way to do it. The urgency to teach them the manners and their habit of not listening eventually make the parents to start yelling and scaring the kids. Unfortunately, this technique does more harm than good. They start to learn absorbing this yelling session, and then the time comes when they stop getting scared too. Worst case! They might even start yelling back; something that can be disastrous for the parents’ emotions.
This is the fact that you are working person besides being a parent. So, there might be a lot on your mind before you see the children making some mistake which you don’t really want them to make. In this scenario, it’s easy to gather all of that negative energy and blow everything in the firestorm coming out of your mouth. But, you need to learn to control your emotions in order to adopt a strategy to stop yelling, especially at your kids.
Realize the true role of parenting
Your true job as a parent is to manage your emotions well. It might be too difficult to slow down when you are not in an ideal emotional situation but you need to understand that handling such situation is the crucial job in parenting. Your children don’t deserve to be yelled at; and you deserve to get a good response from your kids, something you can’t get when you let your emotions drive your mood.
Make a commitment
Committing your family to be respectful loud and clear will certainly help you apply breaks when you are emotionally disturbed. Here, you can also tell your family that you are learning to control your emotions, and that you will try to maintain your best behavior.
Remember, kids are kids
Kids are naïve and immature, and that’s what makes them the kids. They are naturally bound to see the limits of things. The prefrontal cortex of children is not developed fully, so it is not possible for them to think straight. Most important of all, they do not like to feel as being controlled. Therefore, if you want them to be respectful and cooperative in their lives, you need to understand that they are kids with the attributes mentioned above.
Don’t gather resentments
You may have a bad day due to which you have gathered the ‘kindling’ in your emotions. After gathering enough of it, it becomes very difficult to stop the fire that you are about to breathe. The best way to avoid all of this is to prevent gathering the resentments that can ruin your family time. Take a deep breath when you feel overwhelmed and take some breaks to get refreshed.