Most of the parents realize that they should stop yelling at
their kids but they usually fail to see any way to do it. The urgency to teach
them the manners and their habit of not listening eventually make the parents
to start yelling and scaring the kids. Unfortunately, this technique does more
harm than good. They start to learn absorbing this yelling session, and then the
time comes when they stop getting scared too. Worst case! They might even start
yelling back; something that can be disastrous for the parents’ emotions.
This is the fact that you are working person besides being a parent. So, there might be a lot on your mind before you see the children
making some mistake which you don’t really want them to make. In this scenario,
it’s easy to gather all of that negative energy and blow everything in the
firestorm coming out of your mouth. But, you need to learn to control your
emotions in order to adopt a strategy to stop yelling, especially at your kids.
Realize the true role
of parenting
Your true job as a parent is to manage your emotions well.
It might be too difficult to slow down when you are not in an ideal emotional
situation but you need to understand that handling such situation is the
crucial job in parenting. Your children don’t deserve to be yelled at; and you
deserve to get a good response from your kids, something you can’t get when you
let your emotions drive your mood.
Make a commitment
Committing your family to be respectful loud and clear will
certainly help you apply breaks when you are emotionally disturbed. Here, you
can also tell your family that you are learning to control your emotions, and
that you will try to maintain your best behavior.
Remember, kids are
kids
Kids are naïve and immature, and that’s what makes them the
kids. They are naturally bound to see the limits of things. The prefrontal cortex of children is not developed fully, so it is not possible for them to
think straight. Most important of all, they do not like to feel as being
controlled. Therefore, if you want them to be respectful and cooperative in
their lives, you need to understand that they are kids with the attributes
mentioned above.
Don’t gather
resentments
You may have a bad day due to which you have gathered the
‘kindling’ in your emotions. After gathering enough of it, it becomes very
difficult to stop the fire that you are about to breathe. The best way to avoid
all of this is to prevent gathering the resentments that can ruin your family
time. Take a deep breath when you feel overwhelmed and take some breaks to get
refreshed.
